FORGIVING- THE ACTIVE WAY

By Hafsa Reasoner

Passive Ways of Forgiving are Ineffective

When we are hurt, letting go and let time heal our wounds seems so heroic once mastered. But the truth is, it all merely means to suppress the pain deep in your subconscious and unconscious mind. I call this a very passive way of attempting to forgive, and is more harmful to our wellbeing than we think.

Time doesn’t really heal all wounds.  The feelings left by some wounds are repressed deep within our subconscious and unconscious, manifesting their vibration to the world around us, and hence attracting more and more similar wounds right back to us.

Therefore, it is not really healthy or effective to think that; “I shall forgive my transgressor in time, when I heal” or even to think that “I am brave enough to forgive even when it still really hurts.” This kind of thinking simply is not effective or healthy to us.

We all know how hard it is to forgive someone instantly and completely by just letting go and waiting for time to heal our wounds. Even when we manage to forget, we merely think we have forgiven them, but the pain they caused us is still there, buried deep within our subconscious, waiting for a trigger (of similar situations that caused us pain in the first place), in order for our mind to create its defense mechanism and tell you not to “let anyone else hurt you like that again”. So it carries the memory of how you were hurt, in order for it to serve as a future reference. And as long as the thought is within your subconscious and is not re-programmed, the thought carries its certain vibration frequency.

Out there in your reality, there are situations similar to the first one, and they too carry a matching vibration frequency to the first experience that hurt you. Carrying the thought in your subconscious therefore, enables your first experience to attract similar situations in your surrounding in order to re-manifest them in your life. Therefore, your life becomes a series of similar hurtful situations, until you re-program the thought from being painful to that of healing. On my other pages; Healing with Love,  and Effectiveness of Healing Affirmations, I clearly explained the concept of effective healing.

How to Practice Active Ways of Forgiving

 

An active way of forgiving is by starting to send healing energy to your transgressor through positive affirmations. Start by the Healing Affirmations then recite the following Forgiving Affirmations;

These affirmations can be recited as many times as possible for as long as is needed. Like any effective affirmations, they work more effectively when they are recited with focus, the transgressor’s name is mentioned in them, and when they are based on your belief system. That is why I have included two different versions of the Forgiving Affirmations.

Practicing the active forgiving method will not only heal you but help you to keep at bay all similar painful situations from occurring over and over in your life. This is how you break free from them and as a result create positive abundance into your life.

I encourage that you use these affirmations the right way, while anticipating that you shall succeed in healing yourself and achieve the peace you deserve. Please let me know the outcome, or ask me a question, comment or email me at aspiredbridge@gmail.com. You can give me your suggestions and opinions so that I can improve the page and we can all benefit from the ideas.

Love and Hope,

Hafsa Reasoner.