HEALING FROM GRIEF

By Hafsa Reasoner

At some point in our lives, we all experience the pain of a loved one’s passing (death). There are many reasons why we are stricken so hard by grief over the passing of the loved one. The most common ones that I know of are misconception about the meaning of death, unresolved issues between ourselves and our deceased loved ones, perceived loneliness and a sense of lacking as a result of their passing. Whatever the reason may be, we all need to heal and rid ourselves of the resulting low vibration brought about by the grief. Forcing ourselves to forget does nothing but repress the feeling of grief deep in our subconscious, and this leads to more grieving situations following us in our lives until our vibration frequency is so low that we attract other problems that were not even there before. Here is how you can learn to heal yourself from grief;

Healing from Grief Caused by Fear of the Unknown after Your Loved One Passes On

Misconception about the meaning and the whole process of death give us a sense of “loss”, when our loved ones are gone. This is one of the reasons I avoid using the words “loss of a loved one” and instead I call it the “passing of the loved one”. When you really understand the process of the loved one’s passing you will shed away all fear you previously had about death. To understand the meaning of death, one must understand the meaning of life and who they are. Then from that point of view, the true meaning of death can be understood and hopefully it will release all the fear you previously had about death. The meaning of death has been thoroughly explained in my article Death Is Not a Loss but a Transformation. Click here. You can also click here for Positive Affirmations to heal your fear of death.

Healing from Grief Caused by Unresolved Issues When Your Loved One Passes On

Another reason people are so grieve-stricken from the passing of their loved ones is the unresolved issues between them and the deceased. This can manifest in the form of guilt or resentment. These are feelings associated with lower vibration frequency and they are potentially harmful to us. When you understand what death is, then you should also understand that nothing keeps us from resolving our pending issues with our loved ones even when they are gone. Remember, even the new Science proves that consciousness remains after death. This means that while you think that your loved ones are gone, their awareness (sensation, emotions, will) still exists in another dimension devoid of all material emotions such as anger, resentment and guilt.

Note that all these material emotions (such as anger, resentment and guilt) have low vibration frequency and our deceased loved ones, having no physical bodies but “light” bodies vibrating at a higher frequency, are no longer capable of carrying the low vibration emotions with them. So if there is any guilt felt towards them by you, know that they forgave you the minute they left their physical bodies here on earth. All that is left with them is the memory of you and what happened between you and them, and this memory and knowledge is enhanced by great understanding and pure love they still feel for you. All you have to do on your part is still manifesting loving energy to them and wishing them a safe journey to transformation. Use these Positive Affirmations forResolving Guilt Issues with Deceased Loved Ones.

When your unresolved issues with your deceased loved ones are based on you hating them, it is important for you to heal with love. You should always remember that hate never really brings retribution to our transgressors, not in this dimension and especially not in the spirit dimension. Hate brings back more hateful experiences right back to us. Healing with love, on the other hand not only heals us and our transgressors, break the chain or similar situations that would accrue from our previous hate. It also raises our vibration frequency and help us staying in tune with our spirit and souls.

In the article Healing with Love, I had explained that the best way to heal is to direct healing energy to our transgressors so that it may be redirected right back to us by the Universe. In case our transgressors are the deceased, it is still important to send the healing energy to them in order to heal ourselves. Sending this healing energy to the deceased does not mean that they need your help because they are still suffering at the spirit dimension for the wrong they did to you. Remember that the nature of the spirit dimension is that of high vibration frequency, therefore they would not be able to carry the emotion of guilt (a low vibration emotion) with them.  They would have to be purged of the guilt emotion (and all other low vibration emotions) before they get to the spirit dimension. But this has to happen somewhere beyond the material plane, devoid of all material (low vibration) influences.

How long it takes for the loved ones to be purged of their low vibration emotions is totally independent of your feelings towards them. In other words, your hate and need for their retribution does not have any effects on them (alive or dead). What really put them in purgatory state in the first place, is the amount of their own low vibration experiences they had collected during their life here on Earth. Since the consciousness has higher vibration than their low vibration emotions and feelings, then it becomes so burdened that it slows down their journey to the high vibration realm (spirit world). In other words, the speed of their journey is based on the rate of their vibration frequency and how much of high-vibration experiences they’ll have accumulated by the time they depart this world, and not by our ongoing low-vibration feeling (such as hatred) that we may have towards them.

Suppose the deceased had already repented and sent some healing energy towards you before their death, it means that they already received healing in return, therefore raising their vibration. It’s up to you to receive that healing energy they manifested, and you will be able to receive this energy by raising your own vibration frequency through the healing energy. This means that when you send healing energy to the people who hurt you while they are still alive, and suppose they repented and sent healing energy towards you, this would mean double healing energy to you if you are open to receive it. You become open to receiving all positive energy when you already are creating positive energy yourself. This is because only energy entities with the same or slightly higher vibration frequency exist in harmony and the effect of their interaction is the amplification of their energy.

Sending the deceased healing energy beyond their grave, does not mean that they need you to heal them but is rather translated as an act of selfless love towards them and it has high vibration, since they are also at a higher vibration dimension, they become aware of the good thing you are doing for them and this benefits them by raising their vibration and lower their emotional burden. And this act has more benefit to you because you attract in return, energy of healing and love and hence raise your vibration frequency. Therefore the most important lesson is that when you have resentment towards a deceased person, your low vibration emotion does not have any effect on them but on you. So send them healing energy and reap twofold reward for yourself (in terms of healing and love). Use these Positive Affirmations forResolving Resentment Issues towards Deceased Loved Ones.

Healing from Grief Caused by Fear of Being Lonely after Your Loved One Passes On

“Now that they are gone, what am I going to do without them?” “I’ll never see them or hear their voice again”. These are manifestations of some of our feelings of being lonely after our loved ones are gone. But these feelings can be resolved when one understands the truth about what we are made of and what Death really is. Anyone who understands that we are made of pure energy and that we are spirit having a human experience, will agree that as of now, part of us (the spirit) is in the spirit world and the rest of us (the soul and the body) are here on the material plane, where the soul serves as the connective link to our spirit. This is why some say we are multidimensional beings. And anyone who understands that death is merely a transformation process where we detach from our physical body (the low vibration part of us) and our souls join our spirit in the spirit world, then they clearly understand that death is just a transformation from focusing on the low vibration temporary existence to our high vibration nature.

A process of detaching our low-vibration temporary form of existence from our high vibration natural form of existence, intends to purify us or so to speak. So when one dies, they go to the spirit realm. But wait! Isn’t that a place where our spirit is existing as we speak? Of course we all have a part of us, an intelligent and pure part of ourselves in the spirit world, even though we seem to sometimes lose our connections to it. However, this means that when they die, their spirit goes to meet with ours in the spirit realm and wait for our soul to return and rejoin our spirit when our time comes. And this fundamentally means that our loved ones are still with us, for eternity. This explains why some people who are able to keep their vibration frequency high can easily sense their presence, from time to time. In fact, we all have the ability to sense their presence if we really want to. Some even believe that they are watching over us and keep us from danger. Therefore, we are never alone. Our deceased loved ones are always with us in spirit. All we have to do is raise our vibration and look out for signs and messages they bring us. However, we can heal ourselves of the loneliness we feel as a result of their passing. All we have to do is instill in us some understanding through the use of Positive Affirmations. These will reform our understanding of death, help us reprogram our subconscious so we can heal and raise our vibration. Use these Positive Affirmations for Resolving Loneliness Felt after the Passing of the Loved Ones.

For those who are orphaned or widowed; who grieve because a deceased was a person whom they greatly depended on, need to heal themselves of the worry that their lives are ruined now that the person they depended on is gone. They should also know that they are still provided for by the Higher Power, all they have to do is believe it. They should heal their mind of the feeling of lack as a result of their loved one’s passing, then they should train their subconscious minds to think thoughts of abundance, their thoughts and actions should be positive and they should be kind and supportive to others (in prayers). In doing so, they will be raising their vibration and will in return have manifested abundance in their lives. Opportunities will show up to them unexpectedly and there will never lack anything in life. Here aresome Healing Positive Affirmations for orphans and widows. However, these positive affirmations are not limited to orphans and widows only, but anyone who feels a sense of lacking as a result of the passing of their loved one. I hope I’ll soon be able to write positive affirmations for creating abundance so we can all benefit from them.

Conclusions;

When I say we must heal from grief I do not mean we should learn to forget about our deceased loved ones, but merely saying that we should reprogram our memory of them with happy thoughts and memories rather than with fear and sense of lacking. My aim here is to get you to understand death better, help you go through it with ease, heal you from fear and sense of lack, and all this will raise your vibration high enough to move on, while having your deceased loved ones pleasant memories in your heart, safe in the knowledge that you have your deceased loved one’s presence forever with you in spirit.